Judgement Paint Party Friday

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Happy Thanksgiving to my American friends!
Enjoy your celebration!
We Canadians have already celebrated 
Thanksgiving in October!

Mad Milly loves to take chances!!

Too many tattoos, too many scars, someone scantly clothed,  

 someone in outdated clothing, an over weight woman, 

and anorexic girl... 

we are so quick to judge without knowing the whole story!

The woman with a shopping addiction might  be a girl abandoned 

by her mother as a child. The alcoholic male could be a dyslexic who

 lost his parents too early and couldn't cope. A young man with the

 Mohawk might be a neglected boy with an alcoholic father 

and  mentally ill mother!

 

 The young woman with dreadlocks might  be a single 

mom working two jobs then going to the food bank 

on her day off to make ends meet!

The anorexic could be a boy with bad teeth and a father who 

 condemned everything he did.The young man or woman with 

too many tattoos could have unresolved  emotional pain 

they never discuss!  The gorgeous woman with mood swings

 possibly denies her mental illness while the obese woman

 hides the sexual abuse by her grandfather!

 

 I like to know  a persons story before making any judgements. 
Even then I find  it's better to be kind knowing we all have 
a story that we don't need to have judged!

 

 That seemingly perfect life could be filled with huge 

debts, and constant money worries! That seemingly

perfect body may house a bulimic! That wealthy

 woman with a beach front view,

traveling twice a year may be married

to a crotchety bipolar who has embarrassing

fits of temper. 

We can learn so much from all these pertinent stories.

Compassion and understanding leaves the door

open for them to be heard!  

                                                                                                  

 

There will always be those certain few that judge us
harshly no matter what. Unless we have a very thick
 skin, it will hurt at times!  However it's  also improbable
 to live according to how others  think we should!
And impossible to please everyone!

So it's best not to worry about others making judgements and

just live the life that suits our own heart! There will always

be those who criticize and judge.  Mostly because they
feel inferior themselves!

Many brides spend their precious wedding 

planning trying to please everyone but themselves 

just to keep the peace. Meanwhile no matter

how perfect the celebration may seem there will always be

those who make  judgements, about the music, the dress,

 the cake, or the venue. So it's better just to make yourself
happy doing what you prefer! 

 I've not been one to worry too much what others think 
about me, which frees me to be my authentic self.
 Have you been unjustly judged lately?
 Do  you tend to worry what others might think or say?

Unloved!

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Veronica Roth

 

In my twenties  I knew a married couple who admittedly did 
not hold each other in the same esteem! The wife was resigned
 to loving him implicitly despite the fact he did not love her! 
 I remember feeling  shocked and saddened, wondering
why that was enough for her!

  One evening we played cards  at their home. As an outspoken

 independent  woman the man of the house managed to bait
and irk  me every way possible all night long! 
I used my contemptible humour  to combat 
his ignorant comments!

The fact that he didn't love his really sweet wife,  the mother of his

two young children angered me! We managed to get through the 
night with me enjoying his wife's company best! 

It's important to imagine peace and calm!

It was a cold late night so my husband warmed up the car

while I waited at the window. The man crept up beside me and 
whispered that he wanted to sleep with me. I remember the 
shock and betrayal I felt! He was my husbands  former work mate 
  married to a sweet woman in the next room. I was furious!

We had fought the whole night. I assumed he hated me 
by nights end! Instead his words rang in my ears! 

 " Yeah that's not happening," I thought, ignoring him as I

quickly rushing out the door! I didn't have the kind of husband I
 could easily share that with. He'd would have been angered 
to the point of retaliation!   I felt trapped with my secret!

Digital #happytilerthoughts!

 Occasionally I bumped into them  at the grocery store but 

never made an effort to build a long term friendship!
 I suspect the wife knew he was a womanizer but closed 
a blind eye!

Then one day out  of the blue I read in the paper the wife had 
died after a routine surgical procedure. I felt so sad for  
 the young children,  losing their dear mother way too soon!

Digital art...."happytilerthoughts!

The stress of losing his wife and being left

with two young children to raise alone caused  temporary alopecia.

His long thick  hair quickly disappeared and he was left completely bald 

and broken!

Sadly his wife died thinking she was unloved! He suffered
with his grief for a long time! Not sure how his story ended since
we lost touch when we moved!


Some people find it  so difficult to tell their family they love them!
I like to tell my kids I love  them every night before bed!
I  often blurt it out  during the day  too!
 I think it's important to say aloud! Not only for the person you love,
 but for yourself too....just in case the opportunity is lost and 
you are  forced to carry that for the rest of your life!

Over the years I have learned that you can't always choose 

who you fall in love with! Just because you love them, doesn't

mean they have to love you back!  Love them anyway!

When is the last time you voiced how you feel 
to your loved ones?

Attracting abundance!

 

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Before and after Coasters

 Cupcake saw these ugly black coasters for 4 dollars thinking 

I would  enjoy revamping them. Sure enough I put a few words

on all four. I  deviated from my first idea since 

a few of the words didn't fit in the space.

  Then I painted the back sides but hated how eighties 

the hearts and colour were! So I painted over it all starting again.

 I rarely use white but loved the colour peeking out. They just

need to be varnished and I think I can live with them now!

   Things don't always work out the first time!

"Money comes easy and frequently, be strong you got this!"
is what Cupcake chants in her mind lately!  
It's interesting all the little things  
manifested with  this mind set!  

  In the last few weeks she has received; a lancome 
 pack  with mascara, eye makeup, lip gloss,
  my very favorite expensive cream which
 she gave me, plus a  free meal she expected to pay for!

Photo Credit Pepperpf

A few years ago I tried a sample of this  expensive cream and fell in love with it. It's like a little face lift in a jar!

 While expressing her excitement over Christmas 

 decor a Starbucks employee handed her a 

free snowman cookie. Long before the silly 

red cup controversy too.

Photo credit Pepperpf

  As her mind repeats those daily words good fortune continues 

in the way of more free mascara, free dishwasher detergent

and good coffee beans. 

 

Each time she says a little prayer of thanks for 

abundance. She feels excited and grateful

 for each and every little thing she receives!!

In the meantime she is cleaning and purging 

 to make way for all the wonderful new things 

to come into her life!

 

Recently Cupcake purchased really fun gifts for

a single mom and her children. I enjoyed her 
excitement  as she spread out all the 

  adorable toys and clothes she 

found for this sweet little family! 
Her joy bubbled over into my heart!  

 

Her mind  is always focused on giving and gratitude 

 even while chanting," Money flows

 easily and frequently, be strong you got this! 

 

With Beardos recent weight loss he is now floating in 

his clothes. So she put five pairs of his pants 

 on a facebook auction website. A very busy 
 restaurant owner in a nice part of town offered

 to buy them, treat her to lunch and give her 

another gift certificate for dinner if she could 

deliver them to his place of business!    

Photo credit Pepperpf

Little does this family man know that if she likes

his restaurant she will tweet about her experience!

Even though it already has very good reviews!

After being discontinued for several years

Cupcakes favorite expensive leather fluvog boots 

(she's had resoled 3 times  and replaced the zippers

once in eight years) are in distribution again!
She practically lives in those boots all winter long!
A gift fairy has offered to pay for new ones!
And no it's not me!

 
The other day she found a receipt on the ground that she could
use at a  website to redeems six dollars.


Daily new things are offered up....but she's had to purge things
that were taking up needless energy. She sold things on 
the auction site, and gave things to charity. In the flow of
donating, purging and giving she attracts new opportunities
and things she needs!  

What you give doesn't always come back to you the way you expect

it often comes in mysterious ways!! I find you  just got to  have

Faith!

Photo taken yesterday, Credit to Pepperpf...it's a very late Fall this gorgeous  tree has just turned!

Do you need to attract new things into your life?

If so what is it?  Would you be willing to repeat

a few positive words in your mind

to manifest what you want?