Sunday Scribblings Prompt "Adult"
There have been people in my world believed to be adults, yet emotionally immature! These adults are dissuaded from their parental role of directing and correcting by ingesting personal insults dealt by juvenile behaviors. Seems unreasonable to expect children to elicit mature perspectives in a verbal skirmish, without guidance or experience.
I look back on my childhood. Dad reasoned. I respected his word hating to disappoint him. Screaming in frustration, Mother flew into a rage, chasing us in the heat of the moment. It wasn’t hard to outwit or outrun her! I ducked many a smack; resulting in broken blood vessels as her hand missed flesh for counters, cupboards and walls!
Nasty things I quipped at thirteen were held against me well into my thirties, never resolved before she died. Unable to recognize my childhood defenses she expected an adult standard from me. Somehow my behavior reduced her to a bantering school mate on the playground. Although wise and responsible in many aspects mom could be emotionally immature.
Many people appear to be adults, unequipped to deal with life and parenting with an emotionally healthy perspective. Sadly roles get muddied and children are the losers. The older I get the more I realize there are distinct rights of passage into adulthood. One is emotional maturity. Putting our own emotional weaknesses aside to counsel and guide our children out of adolescence is the adult thing to do!
Sometimes I wonder if people would parent with more caution and dignity, if they knew everything they did and said would be recorded forever.
adult relationship with your children!