It`s been a rough week emotionally and creatively. This little face was done two weeks ago as a decoration on a child's gift. My artwork is horrible right now. Bare with me, I`m afraid it`s all about color this week.
Have you ever watched a friend or family memeber invest their love in the wrong people? When I was young I had many friendships that were one sided. I probably had a different love language than those I befriended. Repeatedly I have witnessed those I care about truly bruised and used by family members and friends who take advantage of their loving nature! I must say it's very difficult to watch!
I want to scream from the top of my lungs...."INVEST IN THOSE WHO ARE WORTHY OF YOUR LOVE"!!! I want to say,"don't waste your time and love on those who don't appreciate and respect your kind heart! Don't let callous people keep hurting you!
But I don`t, because I know that Love is often the answer. Keeping a loving heart usually works. Unless people are addicted or mentally ill! Then it becomes a co-dependent relationship of loving them in a toxic way by constantly excusing their bad behavior! Those tend to be the people who need our love the most yet take such advantage of it!
Boundaries are such a necessity when others hold our love for ransom....expecting us to do things against our nature, to get a fair, loving response. When do we pull back our love? How do we deal with those one sided extended relationships we're bound to by marriage or blood?
I'm not the woman I used to be. I can't give what I used to. I share my wisdom, my heart, but physically I don't have the energy of my past. I'm not the friend I used to be either. Long hours spent on the phone with fair weather friends hashing out their weekly problems......is gone. The baking and cooking I did for others.....gone. Quaint dinner parties, almost non existence. The adventures are very few....because that's all I have to give. I am pretty spent as far as drama goes too.
I tend to stick with family now.... and those without judgement. I have narrowed my circle of friends and I like it that way! I love deeply my dear long time friends and keep them close. For those near and dear I'd open the drama door, because they never abuse it! Each moment spent with them is precious, each phone call and email treasured! I spend a lot of creative time alone and I like that too! I spend my love on those who truly appreciate my wisdom, my time and me! How about you.....is your love often wasted on the wrong people? Do you think it's possible to waste our love on the wrong people? This is a question I ask myself, because I believe love is always the answer!
|Gorgeous Jodi Ohl prints|
Last but not least the winner of my Quotes to ponder book and tote bag is Annabelle!
Congratulations Annabelle and please send me an email with your home address so I can pop it in the mail!