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Thursday, January 15, 2015

The haunting question Paint Party Friday

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 Paint Party Friday


Quote " Artists and writers give you what you didn't know you wanted!"
Cupcakes Favorite boots, even though she has many these have been resoled and had new zippers over time! All the shoe paintings are for a project I have planned!
Are you coupled with someone you're not sure of? When I was married  I asked myself the  question, "Could I retire with my partner?" The thought horrified me since he didn't have any hobbies or friends. However I had tons of hobbies and friends so I was busy having fun doing many things. I shivered at the thought of him underfoot twenty four seven. Actually anyone underfoot all the time might drive me a little nuts. I really value alone time. I remember staying up late just to have the solace of being alone a few hours daily. I stayed married many years after asking myself that question.
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Day in and out people work, raise children, deal with in-laws and out-laws, have hobbies and extra curricular activities! Sometimes they rarely connect except when their head is about to hit the pillow. Or when they're harping at each other about the should haves, could haves and would haves of life!! I was a pretty insightful to ask myself that question in my twenties!  Too bad I didn't heed the answer a lot sooner than I did!  The only consolation is knowing I wouldn't have Cupcake without that relationship!


I have no regrets, but I still look at couples  and wonder could they retire together. Will they be happy with one or the other underfoot? When a woman is in turmoil about her marriage I ask her that question...the answer is usually an emphatic no!
 
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Friendship is always a bases for a good relationship. My parents had a wonderful friendship as the root of their partnership. It's quite interesting to observe Cupcake and Beardo who are much the same as my parents,  planning daily together what they will manifest in their life! Whether it's painting a room together which they are working on right now!  Or planning trips to the grocery store, a concert or Vegas. They giggle and have fun daily.
Beardo's awesome dancing shoes!!
 I've asked them that question and do believe they could retire quite nicely as a couple. I'm not naive. Of course once you place children into the mix things could drastically change. Twelve years together and coming up on their seventh wedding anniversary, my money is on them lasting the long haul! Kids or not!
Gratitude for my home and family
My parents marriage took a beating while raising kids,  my father  was a wiser disciplinarian and mom flew off the handle, probably from exhaustion... They differed on how to raise children. It was probably their biggest conflict outside of alcohol! 

 Once we were up and out of the house they resumed their deep affection for each other despite the fact that mom was never that romantic. When a woman doesn't expect emotional romance the man is kind of off the hook. My dad on the other hand  could be a bit  romantic in a non monetary way!  Ultimately romance was never their thing, practicality and friendship was at the core of their long standing love relationship! They were golfing and dancing lovers who adored each other til the bitter end! Sadly even though they retired only one year together,  they enjoyed every minute they could!
Two weeks in and already I feel like I'm BLOOMING!!! What a difference a week makes!!

                                 Could you retire happily with your partner? 


Check out this website for what you can do with recycled cds....I want to make somethings like the above guitar for the next art charity!! There are amazing ideas on here!! Enjoy!!

39 comments:

Valerie-Jael said...

Wonderful artwork! I would have loved to have retired with my partner, but he died too soon. Valerie

Nicola McLean said...

Another thought provoking read. Yes i could easily retire with my husband and hope we get the chance to one day. He's my best friend and i love spending time with him but equally we both have our own things -art andwriting for me and making things from wood and photography for him so we are happy to go odd and do our own things without being in each others pockets as well. I love these super colourful backgrounds you've created.

Clare Lloyd said...

Gorgeous colours and fab art work.

froebelsternchen Susi said...

Love your shoe paintings and all the other brightful stuff...
I had twenty beautiful years with my first partner and now 15 beautiful years with my second partner..
whatever the future brings to me..it will be good....I am sure!

sheila 77 said...

Both shoe paintings are tremendous, I especially like Beardo's dancing shoes, brilliant shoes and brilliant painting. Great backgrounds too, the second one is more than a background, it's a super abstract painting.

Victoria said...

Hi kindred...wonderfully sharings, insighful post as always! Beautiful art, love the shoes and boots.and all the patterns and lovely colors..love them all together too, very strong and magical.
Wishing you a beautiful wkd. Thanks for your kind visit and adding sparkles to my world!

Julie said...

Beautiful work! And I definitely think I could retire with my husband. We get along so well and love spending time together...but also both enjoy our own hobbies and alone time.

Faye said...

As always, I am enjoying your colorful art, Sherrie. I had 18 wonderful happy retirement years with my soul mate. We were like Beardo and Cupcake or your mom and dad because we were best friends. Each of us had separate hobbies but we also had together hobbies. I agree that having someone around 24/7 would get stifling. At least for me.

Christine said...

I love the shoes! I could retire happily with my partner, my wish is for us to stay healthy.

Mari Huertas said...

I like a lot such as Gypsy and cheerful guitar. Saludos

GlorV1 said...

Love your shoes and backgrounds. Hope you are doing well. Life is always changing and we deal with it in the best way we can in order to be happy. Have a wonderful day. I always love your work.

Kate Robertson said...

Beautiful work. My husband is retired. At first it was very hard having him around all the time. You have to learn new ways to navigate. I had thought I would have to get a job as being together 24/7 would be too much but that has not happened. I have my art, fiber work and coaching that keep me occupied and he has rediscovered reading and other hobbies. You learn how to coexist in new ways. I too value my alone time and find ways to get it.

Kate

Susan said...

Love your shoes! I also enjoyed your abstracts. I ended up retired with the same guy I picked when I was 21. Just lucky I guess, we sure battled through some of those 50 years but we couldn't be happier now.

Karla B said...

Well, I witnessed my parent's love story. Every Saturday Dad would buy Mom flowers and etc.He was a very romantic guy but He died too soon. Mom never married again. I wasn't lucky like mom. Right now I'm alone. I confess I have never thought about retiring with a partner.All I want is to see my girls happily married. That will suffice, my friend,

SLScheibe said...

I love the boots! How cute and fun!

When it comes to that time, I will happily retire with my husband. He's pretty awesome. :)

Teresa Arsenault said...

Your mosaics are beautiful and that guitar is amazing. You have some good insights into marriage. A solid friendship is foundational; passion is fun, but over-rated.

Blessing hugs,
Teresa

Sirkka said...

Nice artwork and thoughts of relationships. We, my husband and I retired together, but he died shortly after that. So we could not enjoy it at all.

Linda Kunsman said...

So many glorious projects here! I LOVE those patterned backgrounds! Looking forward to finding out what the shoes are for:) LOVE the dancing shoes. I could retire with my hubby in a heartbeat. Like Nic says we also have our own creative sides and don't need to be in each others faces all the time. He allows me my creativity and I allow his. An absolute nice, nice guy in all whom I am blessed to have met 32 yrs ago.

My name is Erika. said...

Love your pieces- the colors are lots of fun. My partner is my best friend, but there are days...of course. I just hope he isn't an "old man" when he finally retires, because I don't plan on being an "old woman".

kat said...

I love this colourful collection, very playful and fun! Yes I can see myself happily retiring with my hubby, he's a good one!

Ayala Art said...

Fun art and colors as always!
Yes, we have been together 22 years and it is still not enough <3

Tammie Dickerson said...

SO cool! I love the guitar, too! Such beauty from recycled cds! Happy PPF!

lee said...

loved the art work, we are working on 42 years together, and not all are great, he has no hobbies, and is retired with me. But luckly I have many hobbies, and friends, and go and come as I please, he is happiest at home

Ilona Heimböckel said...

I think we will get along very well when we grow old. We like each others company at all times now, but we also like to have our own occupations. We share a lot of cultural interests, which is great to spend time on!
But like you I love some hours for myself, and I can easily have them with my husband in the next room!
Sending you big hugs and all the best for you and "your children"

Cindy D. said...

The shoes and boots are cool! My favorite is the pretty house with the hearts, so sweet! Relationships are complicated! I am lucky that my main man is my good friend. And he is an optimist about the world when I am sometimes a pessimist!

minnemie said...

I love the quote about artists and writers... there's a lot there... I would love the retire with my husband. We still have little ones, but already look forward to some more "us" time as our young'ens become more independent. Our talents and interests are very different, but we are shaped and challenged by each other's journeys.

Gillena Cox said...

Luv the acrylic pages, happy you dropped in at my blog

Have a nice weekend

Much love...

susupetal said...

The colors in your work make an interesting contrast to your text. Colors are self assured, while the text is pondering,< a bit doubtful, I love that contrast, it's life, the many sides of it.

arianezuber said...

Like your work ;) especially the shoes and no, cannot retire with my partner in act I am just parting and leaving. Not easy because he doesn't see that problem. May the New Year let come out the things for good.

Katherine Jeanne Wood said...

Ooh, this one's easy. I'm not ever going to retire. :)

Gil Zetbase said...

Splendid!
Have a nice week end!
Photographer Gil Zetbase
http://www.gilzetbase.com/

Paper rainbow said...

A very perceptive post yet again. I love that link to re-cycled CDs... im off to cut some up!! :)

Clare Willcocks said...

I think that's a really lovely way of looking at marriage! I'm not sure some people even consider the end of the year, let alone 40 years time :) Beautiful bright paintings too! x

Lisa Isabella Russo said...

I love your gratitude for your home and family painting and the boots too! Great idea with the guitar. Interesting thoughts too!

Danielle M said...

Very nice read! I'm single so I don't have to worry about a partner. Love your artwork!

Meihsia Liu said...

I always love your works! The colors are amazing. :)

stefanie stark said...

It's remarkable how you have written the text about marriage and relationship. I think we all have to go through a lot of experiences until we know what we want but we become older until this happens and usually we get married before we make all these experiences. There was a time when I also thought I can't retire with my husband but life changed somehow and meanwhile I can think of no more appropriate husband to retire than my husband as my needs has also changed in the course of the years. I love all your art and my favourite in this post are Beardo's dancing shoes, they look great! - and your gratitude for your home and family painting.

Deepa Gopal Sunil said...

INteresting post as usual! Missed reading your posts :)
Love your shoes and all the other pictures too. The last picture is Lovely!
I can see myself retiring with my hubby...Hope God graces us with that! :)

JKW said...

I believe that quote was from Apple. . .Steve Jobs gave us things we didn't know we wanted. I like the writers and artists though, being both. Love your art, your words of wisdom are always pertinent. Blessings, Janet PPF

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