Peace begins at home! Paint Party Friday

 Paint Party Friday
I am so late posting because I completely 
changed my subject matter for this week.

This photo doesn't do this painting justice. It's richer and more vibrant in person.

Wednesday a handsome father, husband, son, soldier was 
killed on  parliament hill by a lone gunman. 

 Canadians are a peace loving people, producing many 

creative souls.  A threat to our Government was felt by all!

 Thursday business continued as usual on the hill. 
Not with hateful hearts, but with strength, defiance of fear, 
and heartache for a peaceful country's loss of innocence.

The color on this painting is less vibrant.

Although sad, I feel  prouder today than yesterday
that our Country came together holding " Strong and free" 
Government speeches were  genuinely spoken  
with conviction and a sincere emphasis on gratitude!

Velda has a green face but her color is not accurate..I have no idea why!

 Peace begins at home! 
Outside of a wonderful drive into the 
Valley I find a frenzy on the roads  these days.
 
  I know that life is fast and everyone is in a hurry. However what

 do we teach kids when we don't wave people into a lane,

 or let them go first at a stop sign.  
  Is courtesy a dying art?

There are so many polite and loving artists on
 Paint Party Friday..

 a wonderful example of what 
peace looks like an often chaotic world.

I think to myself how are children suppose to learn kindness,

 manners, courtesy when there are so many overt 

examples of  narcissism, anger, and bullying out there.

  There needs to be more conversations about adult bullying

 before we are able to honestly discuss what happens at a junior level.

More Kindness campaigns like this!  More compassion in schools! 

There are already so many amazing people in the world doing the lions share.

Everyday  courtesies matter!!

 I still see so many everyday rude occurrences.

  I love to give people the benefit of the doubt.

Of course there are unique circumstances,

"A death in the family,  a sick child

or some other crisis..." causing

 people to become oblivious to their actions

....they're excused.

It's the everyday courtesies....like letting traffic in, helping an old person 

who crosses the street and drops her groceries...

No one did.

If our Prime Minister can hug his opponent with conviction
the day after a  parliamentary crisis and 
possible threat to our country.

I think there is hope and room  to  be kinder and
more courteous in our everyday lives. Not just as 
good customer service because we're directed to, but
as thoughtful, kind, loving  human beings by example!

If what we do to others truly comes back to us, doesn't
it makes perfect sense to make every effort to 
always treat people with kindness  and dignity
even if they're being difficult!

" Every Action has a reaction of consequence,"We reap what we sow" 
Ralph Waldo Emerson

And Peace begins at home!

What act of kindness have you received lately that

 affected you one way or another?

Guilt Monster, Paint Party Friday

 Paint Party Friday

Greenadine

Guilt is a ugly monster that can alter the quality of your life! There are things I don't want to do, things I feel obligated to, and things I worry about doing. Guilt really is a useless waste of energy. 

When my mother was in Palliative care many many moons ago my life came to a halt so I could visit very long days.
 

Bowman

Some of the family was in denial, not (me). I adjusted my  life drastically from living on adrenalin in order to accomplish super  mom woman status to best most supportive daughter ever!

After three months of daily hospital visits, very long hours at a time, the family waited in a room to speak to the doctor. 

Original Boman

Always a strong woman, mom had declined any more physio therapy knowing she was at the end. She no longer wanted to suffer the pain of walking around when she felt like crap.

Mandarin Orange Monday

All but her sister supported her wishes. My aunt somehow figured if she would walk she would recover. 

Narfie

There was so much guilt in that room. Guilt because we'd not made enough time for mom in the last few years. I worked full time and had a young child. My life was as busy as  moms   had been. 

Carver Original

When I wasn't working I was cooking, cleaning and doing 

everything  to be the super woman she raised me to be. 

 Five years younger my sibling felt even worse. Working as much overtime as he could  while taking care of a home and religiously working out. With  partying and having a little lady fun like many young men do  he had no time for mom either.

In that moment we knew we were living the way we were taught. We had the exact same time for mom as she had always had for us.  Not enough.

 Thankfully both my brother and I have rectified that with our own children. 

It's paid off, and we both have very close intimate relationships with our children and their partners. Relationships we have honed from infancy.

I know that guilt is a energy draining waste of time and useless emotion. It eats up creative space in your mind!  I have yet to find a woman who doesn't feel buried by it! I still fall prey to it myself!  Guilt is a monster we should all release...

 What would you replace your guilt with?

Original Greenadine

What guilt are you needlessly carrying around that you can do nothing about anyway?

Making Time!! Paint Party Friday

 Paint Party Friday

Nerd Girl  Face #5

 29 faces in Sept 2014

Mandarin Orange Monday

Do you complain you haven't enough time to create?  Of course life's demands come first, but second should be YOU time, and then if there is anything left, you share it. If for no other reason to keep balance, with a healthy mind and happy heart!! You have to make time!
 

Cole face #9

So many woman and some men are constantly doing for others with little time to hear those little whispers from god. The ones pointing you in the right direction! Whether you love to walk, garden, create, cook, or visit with friends to get recharged you need to schedule time to do those things with joy and ease!

Nerd Boy #6 Nerds make time for themselves!

I have one friend who prides herself on getting ready, shower and all, in ten minutes...she likes to challenge that time too!  With a beautiful bathroom room, she rarely, if ever, enjoys her gorgeous tub!

Digital color edits

Whereas I honour my time having a quiet bath. There, my muse will quietly whisper ideas. My whole life I have made time to create things. Whether it was redecorating a room with colourful paint, crocheting, or sewing, I was always making something because I like beauty around me and because I love and NEED to create!

Nadine  Face #7

Over time my tastes have changed, my need for color and whimsy trump my need for beauty.  What's beautiful in my eye completely differs from others! I have always walked a bit on the wild side when it comes to color but everyone seems to enjoy it when they visit!

When men ooh and aah then mention they like your decor you know it's brave and different. If you're conservative beige person the colors could be irritating and ridiculous. All my friends are super creative and it's was only after years of connection that we realized just how creative we all are!  I think when you're young you can take that for granted! 

Neara face #8

Scheduling "YOU" time as though it were a doctors appointment is so important. It teaches others to honour your time. Friends, family and children start to respect the block of time you use to write or create. Eventually they understand how much you value your "ME"  time. 

 It is so true that we teach people how to treat us! If we take abuse even once it is carte blanche for  that behavior to continue! The  oxymoron "Boundaries set you Free" is my motto! It took years to  shake the mentality as a child of an alcoholic who often infringed on boundaries. Now I understand the importance of them and time for Self!  

Are you making time for YOU? Do you ever feel guilty for taking that time?

 Do others understand how important that time is to you?