One, Never walk through a closed door without first knocking and waiting for a reply.
Two, Clean up your own messes as you go, don’t make a huge mess while cooking dinner and expect someone else to clean it up, it builds resentment.
Three, Respect is a two way street, one begets the other.
Four, Take turns doing chores, but if ones person is gifted over the other and enjoys doing a particular chore, let them take it on. Work out what suits each person best, life flows better and some are quicker at one job over an other. It can free everyone up for fun!
Five, Teach thoughtfulness and equality in your home by always being fair.
Six ,Never yell, if you have a problem talk it out. If you can’t resolve it, sleep on it then revisit it.
Seven, Never excuse mean behavior in your home. Treat people in your home with kindness and dignity even if you feel angry.
Eight. always be sure your home is a soft place to fall, everyone should want to come home. Who wants to step into a place where a hundred demands await!
Nine. Greet people who enter your home with joy in your voice! But give them space in case they need time to collect their thoughts before they talk about their day.
Ten, Make time for peace in your home, where you can just create or veg out. Make it conducive to creativity, joy and laughter.
Eleven, Know your limits, how much you can accomplish in a day, try not to be unreasonable with yourself or others. ( This one took me years)
Twelve, Actively connect with at least one family member daily by having an intimate conversation.It helps those you live with feel loved and important, it feeds your soul too!
Thirteen, make sure to do at least one nice thing a day for the people you live with, ( of course mothers usually do more), showing and expecting kindness is nonnegotiable.