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Monday, January 18, 2010

Sunday Scribblings " The good old days"



Sunday Scribblings " The good old days"


Are the good old days but of failed memory of what really was?
Did we choose to rewrite our past, scribbling out that youthful angst and splotchy parts?
Was it really a better time without the current technology that affords us  travel and connection through the universe on a chair in our home?
Or were the snippets of beauty in each passing day what we chose to hold onto, letting the ugly fade away?

After dad died, mother missed him dreadfully.   I think it lead to her demise five years later. One evening she was particularly distraught reminiscent of all the good times
they enjoyed as a couple. Golfing, dining out, chatting, playing bridge, making a fried egg sandwich in the wee hours of the morning. I felt she was lost in these fairytale memories, so I kindly snapped her back to reality. Reminding her of the many roast beef dinners he was absent, arriving home late, and loaded, without even a call. All the other times she stewed awaiting his safe arrival home, the ritual arguments about her trips to Reno, his disappointing behavior that sometimes put her in a pickle. Relieved, she thanked me for filling in the blanks of truth, so she could grieve dad in his entirety.    

8 comments:

Sandee said...

Most of us choose to remember the good memories and blocking out what the bad. I think it's just human nature. I do know that I'm living the 'good old days' right now.

Have a terrific day. :)

Janet said...

Many times I think we only remember the good stuff when a loved ones dies. But there's always some good and some bad in everyone's life.

My problem is trying to remember any of the good things about my dad!

KB said...

I agree with you, many people who think back to the good old days tend to glorify them and forget the bad stuff. Nicely done.

Queen-Size funny bone said...

Its easier to hang onto good things to forget the bad stuff.

oldegg said...

The real worry is that in a few years time the present may well seem to have been a fantastic time to live.

Your insightful piece reminds us all to enjoy the here and now and not to harp on about the past. It is gone!

Americanising Desi said...

i too have a tendency to flush the bad and only remember the good!

human mechanics i believe :)

Good Ol' Days'

linda may said...

Yes the good old days were certainly a mixture of both good and bad, so are today's times, unfortunately. That's life eh.

Lucy said...

funny how those bad times fade away when someone passes.. this is so true.
Marriages.. even the best of them.. surely do have some challenging times.
Hoping this weeks BAD times are someday forgotten
xoxo

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