This morning I awoke thinking “ Nothing is perfect!” That phrase stuck with me as I went about my day. Today my daughter bumped into a young man from our old neighborhood. In just a few moments he informed her that three of the power couples had split up in the past few years. People you never imagined would separate. Women in their fifties. Mothers who always volunteered when parents were needed. Some homemakers who never worked. Their children are raised, now they’re single. All amazing moms. I won’t say the same for their husbands. One who tried to kiss me when I was first divorced. For the record I warded him off with a stern warning.
My daughter felt embarrassed about our divorce, how it ended was pretty traumatic. The whole neighborhood knew our business, mainly because it was ugly with law enforcement involved. We had honed such a normal facade, then boom everything changed.
As the years go by so much has been exposed about our so called perfect old neighborhood. It really did seem that way for years. Turns out others had trouble behind closed doors too! Do women just tolerate their unhappiness until the kids are raised? Does everyone outgrow each other? Or do people just find their true self and decide what they once built and wanted no longer matters?
I used to ask friends who had doubts about their marriage if they could retire with their spouse. I knew the answer was “NO” for me. I was very young when I figured that out. It took me twenty three years before we pulled the plug. He’s retired now, and I can’t even fathom how horrible it would be to have him around daily! No matter how good things look, NOTHING IS PERFECT!
8 comments:
I love your open honest posts--and oh so true--I'm glad that you're at a comfortable place in your life now, and LOVE your ladies!
You're right, nothings perfect. It usually takes about five years to start seeing the cracks in most everything.
Hubby and I are both retired and we love spending our time together. We are each others best friend. Convenient.
Have a terrific day. :)
everyone wears a mask of one sort or another. love the three gals you've created.
Nothing is perfect....and would we ever want it to be? Perfection is over-rated. I believe that our little flaws make us human, and we all have them.
My hubby is retired now and it took us a little bit of time to get used to it but now we're cruisin' along and having fun.
Your words are right on! I have seen the same thing happen in my world - couples that were just "rock solid" are splitting up. It has rocked my world. I am happily married - and have been for almost 25 years - but it is a good reminder to not take that for granted. I believe in doing what you can to work through marital issues - but I also say BRAVO to brave women who take care of themselves and end unhealthly relationships!
We have no idea what goes on behind closed doors. People that look perfect from the outside rarely are. Well, no one is perfect, but you know what I mean. If we traded places with someone we think has it better, I'm sure we'd find out we'd just traded one problem for another.
...going through it myself after 20 years. so true.
and again! LOVE these pieces! super fun and funky.
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