Are we ever completely free of worry once we become a Mother? Not in my world. Even though I share a communal living arrangement with adult children I still worry. I feel their pangs of pain, as well as their elation. I often wonder how we manage to make it work through pms, and other moody moments. I’m sure there are times we all just button our traps to keep the peace. Other instances it’s pure love and respect that keep it all together. For the most part we enjoy making each other happy, rolling over the rough patches best we can.
I feel fortunate to be friends with my daughter and son-in-law. My life is nothing of what I imagined it’s would be at this age. Unexpected twists and turns forced me to embrace obscure changes. Accepting these modifications with a flexible perspective has been a bonus.
I try to look at the positive in most situations. Do I wallow in pessimism? Sometimes, for a second. Mostly I look for the good, that glimmer of light in a dark place. I try to find beauty in people and circumstances. When I concentrate on finding what’s lovely I’m blinded to the faults. (or at least for the moment they’re hazed over.) I truly think it frees my soul from the confinement of negative thoughts! Possibly the key to my friendship with the kids! It keeps me happier too!
How about you, how do you deal with life unexpected?
