Lucy at Lulu’s Petals inspired this post! Pepper was two when we took a road trip with another couple and their naughty kids. I loved the children, but they would always push the limits big time, constantly misbehaving. Understandably they were full of energy, but their parents would often have to pull off the road to break up a fight. They seemed to have little control over the kids.
Every single time we stopped at a restaurant and ordered a coffee we were all served, except my dear girlfriend, the children s mom. She’d throw up her hands in defeat, informing us it was a common occurrence. Didn’t matter where she went, she’d be absolutely ignored as though she were an apparition. A very attractive woman with a pleasant demeanor, why was she always excluded I wondered. There was no reason to omit her, ever. But I am not kidding, didn’t matter where we went she didn’t get her coffee, or part of her meal was missing….We’d have to call the waitress back. It was almost comedic.
It makes me wonder why this happens to some, more than others. Of course I am always a big noisy entity. Not so much verbally loud, I've just always had a big presence. Colorful clothes and accessories, infectious laugh, plus I am highly alert….the guys at work used to call me Hawk eye….because I could read lips and would notice everything!
When I want to, I will make immediate eye contact, but I admit that’s rare as I prefer to be less noticeable now that I’m older and wider! Thought I was going to say wiser didn’t you! I digress… anyway
My friend was always so nice to everyone. She’d sit through a whole night of a male coworkers bullsh&#, where’s as I would excuse myself, go to the washroom, come back to find another seat! This is the friend who kindly refused four offers to dance, from a man with no teeth. Still he brazenly pursued a fifth time. Until I warded him off with some unkind words in a stern voice.I teased her that he knew she had a dental plan because she was wearing her uniform!
I’ve come to realize there are those who command attention and service with the proper language and tone; they are understood to mean business. Where others waffle, unsure of what they want or need. Also some who use the same sweet tone for every situation alerting those around that you’re easy going and less likely to cause a ruckus should things go awry. Seems those people are the easiest to take advantage of. Those very kind people, with their quiet tone, inform service workers they will be okay to wait.
The other day my internet was so slow, I got on the blower and spoke to our cable company. The guy argued with me until I was almost blue in the face. I explained that everything worked fine during the hours of one A.M. to four A.M. but during the day it took forever to open any websites. He insisted it was a problem on my end. I begged to differ because everything was perfect in the wee hours. I ended the conversation this way “ I AM NOT HAPPY, WRITE ....THIS..... DOWN, I.. AM..NOT... HAPPY!” When he tried to argue with me again, I said “I DON’T CARE, JUST WRITE THIS DOWN, I AM NOT HAPPY, BUH BYE!”
Guess what folks, my computer with the problem on my end, just happens to be working ticky boo now…. And somehow the miraculous problem I had just happened to disappear the moment I hung up my phone!! So if you have a problem with your kids, just keep repeating, “ I AM NOT HAPPY” or the hubby “ I AM NOT HAPPY” or your service provider “ I AM NOT HAPPY” trust me I have been using it for years!! It works!!
8 comments:
Yes. You have to keep at it. You have to push!
It's worked for me too. The other phrase I've used is, "I'm very disappointed." That one works especially in the work place.
Have a great day. Big hug. :)
what seems now like a lifetime away,, i read portions of a book my mother had bought called games people play i believe... one of the chapters settled around a woman who had left the grocery without the bag containing all her meat purchases... when she returned and the store treated her as if she was doing them a disservice by returning for the meats she had paid for,, she just kept repeating,,, i want my meat... i have spent a life time employing that line in one form or another,, and i can stand beside you and confirm.... it works like a charm.....
excellent post.
I've never been your friend or a person like her. I don't know quite how I do it, but I'm always taken seriously after the second sentence out of my mouth. On hello, many assume I'll be like your friend, and I'm always quite able to tell them differently with the second words after hello. More people admit later on that they had no idea when they first met me but then I said . . .and what I said is different for each one. But, I suspect you are correct.
Read my lips, I am not happy.
I am going to try out your words of wisdom!
You know what I do? You know how they always ask you Hell, how are you? and are not really expecting a response! Well I look up, smile, and say "Hi, I'm fine. How is your day going. Hope all is good"
It makes them real and so theynremember you.
oh god! I AM just like your invisible friend! TOO *$#%ing NICe! This is like a wake up call for me! I am embarrassed that I sounded like a mouse in my last post! I am not always so invisible Sherrie but I am too damn tolerant of strangers. So let me get this "I'm not happy' thing straight... What happens if I say that and they answer back.. "who gives a F#@*???
do I curse in italian then?? or sock 'em one?!! I WILL be using that line, you know I will!! haha xoxo
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