Many people are grieving this holiday season. Whether it be a long term marriage, an illness, or loss of a family member, it's always a difficult process. Usually rearing it's ugly head at the oddest most inconvenient moments.
Years ago a wave of grief flooded over me at a bar, everyone was dancing.... it was dark and loud allowing my tears to run freely without much notice! Another time a wave of denial washed over my mind, tricking me into thinking the person was still alive, away on a golf trip. The truth of my denial came whooshing in so strong. Twenty years later I still remember the red light I was sitting at when I was saturated with the reality of that grief.
It's the covert moments that can stump you too! Moments when your true character is replaced with bazaar behaviour. Nobody knows whats going on. Not even you. Eventually the disturbing outburst are realised to be grief again knocking at the door wearing a different hat!
These feelings are deep and dark whether you lose a friendship, family member, a marriage or a job there is a finally that can be hard to accept. I liken in to your computer crashing, losing years of data, writing, artwork and photos never to be retrieved or restructured again..... times one thousand!!
Six months or more after mom died, we were out for brunch at a place that advertised raspberry pie. I'm not a huge pie lover, unless of course it is top notch like mom made. I am always leery of bad pastry and never order pie when I'm out. The one time I wanted to order Raspberry pie it was sold out... So I sat quietly in my seat then had a melt down over raspberry pie!! Not a good scene for a fat lady! On a normal day I could care less if that pie sold out....after rationalising my crazy outburst I realised my mother was the only one who could make a good raspberry pie and many childhood memories were linked into that pie. At the time I had no idea twenty years later my daughter would replicate that very same pie just as yummy!
I have fought through so much grief in my life, and from all the loss suffered I know one thing for sure. There are better days ahead. They will never be the same, but many wonderful things are born of grief. Beautiful music, poetry and art. New relationships, new perspectives, new appreciations and former events recreated!
As sad and lonely as grief can feel, I promise there will be better days ahead...different days, where you laugh more often, feel joy again, need less, see clearer, revel in new experiences, cherish your memories and feel peace again!
So during this often frenetic season where time is of the essence, people are feeling impatient, overworked, overwhelmed and frustrated, I'm going to try and remember that others may be carrying an even heavier burden and might need to be treated with a little more kindness and love!
If you've ever dealt with grief what did you find most comforting during the holiday celebrations?
This is my contribution for Paint Party Friday and Art everyday month
Years ago a wave of grief flooded over me at a bar, everyone was dancing.... it was dark and loud allowing my tears to run freely without much notice! Another time a wave of denial washed over my mind, tricking me into thinking the person was still alive, away on a golf trip. The truth of my denial came whooshing in so strong. Twenty years later I still remember the red light I was sitting at when I was saturated with the reality of that grief.
It's the covert moments that can stump you too! Moments when your true character is replaced with bazaar behaviour. Nobody knows whats going on. Not even you. Eventually the disturbing outburst are realised to be grief again knocking at the door wearing a different hat!
These feelings are deep and dark whether you lose a friendship, family member, a marriage or a job there is a finally that can be hard to accept. I liken in to your computer crashing, losing years of data, writing, artwork and photos never to be retrieved or restructured again..... times one thousand!!
Six months or more after mom died, we were out for brunch at a place that advertised raspberry pie. I'm not a huge pie lover, unless of course it is top notch like mom made. I am always leery of bad pastry and never order pie when I'm out. The one time I wanted to order Raspberry pie it was sold out... So I sat quietly in my seat then had a melt down over raspberry pie!! Not a good scene for a fat lady! On a normal day I could care less if that pie sold out....after rationalising my crazy outburst I realised my mother was the only one who could make a good raspberry pie and many childhood memories were linked into that pie. At the time I had no idea twenty years later my daughter would replicate that very same pie just as yummy!
I have fought through so much grief in my life, and from all the loss suffered I know one thing for sure. There are better days ahead. They will never be the same, but many wonderful things are born of grief. Beautiful music, poetry and art. New relationships, new perspectives, new appreciations and former events recreated!
As sad and lonely as grief can feel, I promise there will be better days ahead...different days, where you laugh more often, feel joy again, need less, see clearer, revel in new experiences, cherish your memories and feel peace again!
So during this often frenetic season where time is of the essence, people are feeling impatient, overworked, overwhelmed and frustrated, I'm going to try and remember that others may be carrying an even heavier burden and might need to be treated with a little more kindness and love!
If you've ever dealt with grief what did you find most comforting during the holiday celebrations?
This is my contribution for Paint Party Friday and Art everyday month